“God’s pleasure is in the pleasure of the father,
and God’s displeasure is in the displeasure of the father.”
Fathers are significant because they are commanded by Allah (swt) to work hard to provide the physical, educational, psychological, and spiritual needs of a child. ‘Ali ibn al-Husain (r) is reported to have said,
“The right of your father on you is that you should know that
it is he who brought you into existence, and you are a branch of the tree of his life.”
Fathers have a powerful influence on the healthy development of their daughters and sons.
- School-aged children show significant gains in intellectual development when their fathers are involved with them as infants.
- Involved fathers enrich their daughter’s and son’s self image.
- Children who have involved fathers show more sense of humor, longer attention spans, and more eagerness for learning.
- Father involvement helps teens to develop a strong sense of who they are and increases their ability to resist peer pressure.
Dads are role models who teach their children to be strong, flexible adults.
- Fathers teach gender roles: they are generally more physically active with their sons and more protective of their daughters.
- Fathers often think “out of the box” and offer alternative strategies for problem solving.
- Dads tend to offer more physical play than mothers, which increases the physical competency of their young children.
- When fathers model behaviors that are respectful to women, their sons are more likely to model their father’s respectful behavior as well.
Islam encourages the need to show continuous kindness, respect, care, and concern towards fathers as it can often be difficult to keep a steady balance between working, taking care of a household, and fulfilling the many roles of a parent.
Abu Hurairah always encouraged other people to be kind and good to their parents.
One day he saw two men walking together and enquired of the younger one, “Who is this man to you?” to which the young man replied, “He is my father.” Abu Hurairah advised him by saying, “Do not call him by his name, do not walk in front of him, and do not seat yourself before he does.”